Dating apps for lesbians in the UK: honest options for 2026

Choosing between dating apps for lesbians comes down to a simple question: do you want a space built for queer women, or a mainstream app where you set who you want to see? Both can work. This page is honest about what each service offers, based on its own information, so you can pick the best dating apps for lesbians for your situation.

An app made for queer women: HER

HER is available on the UK App Store, developed by Bloomer Inc. Its listing describes it as a space for queer women and gender-diverse people, including lesbian, bi, non-binary and trans users. According to the listing, “all of our core features are completely free”, and there are community groups as well as dating. Paid subscriptions add extra features, and the prices are shown in the App Store. HER suits you if you want a community where everyone is queer and you do not have to filter anything out.

Mainstream services where women can search for women

Ourtime (over 50)

On the Ourtime UK website, “woman seeking a woman” is one of the options at sign-up, and the site has a page for mature lesbian dating. If you are over 50 and want a serious relationship, it is a good place to start. Read our Ourtime review.

eharmony

On eharmony’s UK site you choose whether you are a woman, a man or non-binary, and who you are looking for from the same options, and eharmony has its own lesbian dating page. The compatibility quiz and free Basic Membership work the same as for everyone. Read our eharmony review.

Match

Match asks for your gender and who you are looking for when you sign up. Check the options on the first screen and your search settings once your profile is live. Match suits you if you want detailed profiles and a relationship. Read our Match review.

Hinge, Bumble and Tinder

All three are free to use and let you choose in the settings who you want to see. Bumble’s own listing says it welcomes “straight, gay, lesbian, queer, and beyond”. Hinge is the most relationship-focused of the three. Read our Hinge review and Bumble review.

Lesbian dating apps compared

• HER: built for queer women and non-binary people, core features free, paid extras.
• Ourtime: woman seeking woman at sign-up, over 50s only.
• eharmony: same-gender search possible, compatibility matching, free Basic Membership.
• Match: choose who you are looking for at sign-up, detailed profiles.
• Hinge, Bumble, Tinder: free, set who you want to see in the app.

Privacy and safety

1. Decide how visible you want to be. Not everyone wants colleagues or family to see their profile. Think about your photos, and use incognito or private modes where the app offers them.
2. Check location settings. Apps that show distance can reveal roughly where you are.
3. Meet somewhere public the first time, and tell a friend where you are.
4. Never send money or intimate images to someone you have not met. Report threats or blackmail to the police.

More tips in our dating app safety guide. For support and advice, Stonewall is a good starting point.

Tips for your profile

On mainstream apps it helps to make your intentions clear, because you share the space with everyone else. Say that you are looking for women and what kind of connection you want, whether that is a relationship, dates or friendship first. Use a recent photo where your face is easy to see, and add one that shows something you love doing. Answer prompts with real detail rather than one-word replies: it gives people an easy way in. If you are bi or queer, say as much as you are comfortable with. Our dating app bio examples and the guide to the first message have more ideas.

In smaller towns, the number of women looking for women on any one app can be limited. Widening your distance setting or using HER alongside a mainstream app often helps. Our dating apps by city guides show what works where you live.

Which app suits you?

You want a queer-only space

HER is built for lesbian, bi and queer women and non-binary people. Free tip: join a community group as well as browsing profiles.

You want a long-term relationship

eharmony or Match, both built for serious dating. Free tip: say clearly in your profile that you are looking for a woman and a relationship.

You are over 50

Ourtime offers woman seeking woman at sign-up. Free tip: mention what a good weekend looks like for you.

You do not want to pay

HER and Hinge both have free core features. Free tip: check your location and visibility settings before you start.